Healthy Boundaries in Business

Learn how I use boundaries to maintain a healthy balance between work , family and personal life.

I know my gifts and abilities. I am compassionate and caring and I often put others in front of myself. But I know that others see my gifts and skills and will use them to their own advantage. I set limits on what I agree to do and how much I will give. I am tired of feeling the drain of doing too much . I get frustrated when people expect me to do it again just because I did it last time. I have no problem saying “ no” when a request evades my boundary.

I am not helping my clients if I give them what they want instead of teaching them to obtain it for themselves. I help people obtain financial independence. I act as a guide in helping people complete a realistic budget, and set a monthly plan to pay off debt and bank cash. I am not helping people if I do the budget for them because they will never learn the valuable lessons. I tell parents there is nothing wrong in with holding money from adult children and giving them a fishing pole so they can catch and fry their own fish. Setting a boundary is actually showing love by allowing a person to develop independence. Those who are independent have more chance of being successful in business.

I listened to a successful counselor speak at a conference recently. He spoke about the importance of not making work my identity. The reality is I am not the only Money Coach or Insurance Agent, and one day I will be replaced. I need to have a balanced life with fulfilling activities outside of work . The counselor cautioned professionals about not being emotionally dependent on our productivity or success at work . I have been in jobs that were demanding with little reward. My attitude improved when I placed less focus on work. I was then able to implement a more effective work routine that gave me more satisfaction and peace.

In setting boundaries, I conserve my physical and emotional energy. I will not accept every task that may not produce fruit . I decline projects involving unnecessary risks. I will not waste time and energy chasing after clients who will not commit.

I have developed a mind reset. My mind reset starts when I change my thoughts, words and actions to be more realistic and positive. It does not mean I ignore conflicts but I direct myself to better responses. Instead of saying” I have to go to work” , I say “ I get to go to work” . I look at work as a privilege instead of a task.

I do not accept responsibility for the actions of my clients. I express my specific role in my professional relationships . I am a guide . I do not force clients to make any decisions they are not ready to make. I show concern for clients in explaining potential consequences based on my professional knowledge.

I am focused on building relationships. I know not everyone will agree with me . The truth is I am the same and worth the same regardless of how others respond to me . I am not dependent on how others view or treat me. I am secure with who I am and know I am capable of building trusting, professional relationships. I have built valuable relationships in my local Chamber of Commerce and BNI( Business Network International). If you feel you are ready to make a move towards setting financial boundaries, you can schedule a session with me at www.peacefullifefinancial.com